Some thoughts

Did a lot of browsing thru blogs today and now facts are ratling arund in my head  (and clinking very loudly.

A father who upon hearing a college grad speech is doubting his parenting skills, "providing everything his family could want".   Chaos, economic decline are welcome and will lead to globalization of the world.   Possibly the lack of in depth in the household on the state of the world is leading to this belief.  I believe this comes from the breakdown of the family unit.  Both mother and father work outside the home, trying to catch -up on the never ending chores leaves not time for parenting

An article I read touched on the subject of over complimenting our children.  That once you start down this particular road it gets worse by questioning bad grades (especially when they were earned), giving trophies no matter how a team did (sports) or questioning umpire calls, coaching decisions.

In baseball, my husband had a parent banned from a season of games for "touching an umpire",  had another parent (assistant coach) start yelling because his kid wasn't put in the game ( the boy could not run and we needed the point) the parent quit coaching and never talked to us again.  We took another coach before the board and had him removed because of flagrant rule breaking against  half the kids and yelling at the umps and coaches of another town.  He also could not attend any of his sons games the next year.  My husband took the team over with the son on it and treated him very fairly.  The board continally begged him to coach because all the kids were played in accordance the the rules and he never favored our son (this gets noticed).  We believe that activities are for the kids to experience,  NOT for the parents to live out their fantasies.
                                                                                                                                                               My son played baseball from the age of 6 to 19 yrs and I saw some of the worst parenting.  This is just a tiny part of the parenting world, but I see evidence everywhere I go of over-indulgence.  And yes, I wanted everything for my children but they wouldn't have benefited from objects.  We had experiences:  horses, picnics, hunting, camping, star gazing, etc.

My kids want off of the crazy rollercoaster ride created by my generation and taken to extremes by the next!  I must agree because I want off too.

............ Tired!

What a long day!

• Dropped off a flat tire for fixing
• Get emissions test on my car
• Deposit check at bank
• Do monthly big grocery shop
• Unload  groceries
• Pick up fixed tire
• Go out and look for wood (found a half truck load)
• Unload wood

What a beautiful day here in the Pacific NW, it was actually warm outside with lot's of blue sky.  Of course the clouds have rolled but that's OK.

• One last thing - bottle Kombucha (7 bottles) and start a new batch

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Losses

Last night I went to a wedding shower, my uncle is getting remarried after losing his wife 3 years ago.  Most of the women present went to their church including his fiance.  His daughter came and was most supportive and cheerful until one of the women read a short commentary on the couple.  His first wife was mentioned quite a few  times since she had known this lady quite well.  I could see the pain swirling around my cousin across the room and wanted to reach out with comfort but couldn't. It hurt just to watch.  She was OK though and amazing, her mom would be proud.

A moment in my life ...

Outside my window . . . I see a 27 foot moving truck!

I am thinking . . . it will be a long day.

I am thankful . . . for the 3 moving helper my daughter hired.

In the kitchen . . . already bare bones.

I am remembering . . . the good family get togethers.

I am creating . . . a mess!

I am thinking about . . . the very shortened distance to see my daughter, thank you.

I am hoping . . . for a smooth moving day.

I am looking forward to . . . help at the other end.

I am hearing . . . two little girls 'look grandma (they are popping bubble wrap)

Around this house . . . lot's of little loose ends to clear out, looking good though.

* found this idea from 'likewise ye older women' and will use occasionally because . . . I love the idea!